Imposter Syndrome, what is it?

You may, or may not have heard the recent buzz phrase, “Imposter Syndrome”. Essentially, this is when people doubt their ability to be able to do a job or social position. Perhaps they feel they are not educated enough for a job or don’t have enough job experience.

As a therapist in New Jersey, I see this as a very common theme for both men and women. I also see it outside of work and in areas such as family. Imposter syndrome tends to happen to over achievers, although this doesn’t have to be the case. It also seems to be more popular with people that are starting new jobs or first time parents.

So how do I overcome imposter syndrome? First off, I would start by getting a qualified therapist to help you through the process. New York and New Jersey are very competitive areas and its easy to fall victim of imposter syndrome. Finding a therapist in New Jersey can be hard, but, luckily there is so many therapists offering teletherapy now. This is step one!

Step two would be to recognize your expertise. Focus on your specialties and strong points. Do not focus on the things you do not know, that will come in time and with experience. Find a mentor and talk to someone that will lift you up. Be open to those around you at work or at home how you are feeling. Get support! This is key.

Again, my best advice is work through this with a therapist. Find one online. Teletherapy is amazing and very easy to access. Therapy can help boost your self-esteem and confidence. The key is to not keep these concerns and worries inside, talk to someone, and vocalize your worries!